“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.” -Kahlil Gibran
This quote cannot explain me more perfectly. Has anyone else ever had those times in your life when everything seems to be going great and you have everything planned and set up and then something happens and everything is just on hold? Thats essentially the situation I am in now; and boy can I just say it sucks! This site is called Positively Kathryn for a reason so that is the end of the negativity for this post and now we will talk about how to make it better.
1.) Live in the Present
Whenever you experience an big change in life thinking about how everything is going to change will not make the situation easier. Instead, you have to live in the present and enjoy the day at hand. I am probably the worst at this but when i’m successful at it it makes the biggest difference. I love to be prepared for any situation and think problems through but that definitely creates a lot of stress. Appreciating the good in each day will help you be more positive and that good energy and go a long way!
2.) Plan What you Can
If having a plan makes things easier and makes you feel like you have control then plan! I am a virgo what can I say. Nothing makes me feel better than being organized and in control and having a plan. So when control goes out the window having a short term plan can be so soothing. Even just going on a day to day basis having a plan and being able to feel like you are accomplishing something can empower you.
3.) Remember What is Most Important in Life
There will be times in everyones life when you will have to make changes that will affect the rest of your life. There are always thousands of choices and possibilities in every situation and there is no certainty that what ever choice you make will be the best one in the future. I never want to regret a decision that I make so I always make sure that it has my best interest in mind. I know this sounds horribly selfish but I am only 23 years old and I am a people pleaser. I have a history of making decision because it will make other people happy and not myself. This is by far the most difficult thing for me to do. I hate the feeling of disappointing people, but I have to remind myself that if I make a decision that will not be the best for me it will not be the best for those closest to me in the future.
Change can be hard especially when it is not expected. Try using these steps to help get through the difficult parts and don’t be afraid to rely on others for support.